You worry a lot about bullies in your child’s school. And you would do anything to protect your child from aggressive kids in his or her class. But, what if your child turns out to be the aggressor? How do you know that your child is showing all the signs of a textbook bully in school? If your child is indeed proving to be a bully, how do you deal with the issue? Read on.
Pay heed to complaints
From time to time, you do get calls from his or her school teachers. And most of the calls involve complaints against your child’s unruly behaviour towards his or her classmates. If you think that since there are no complaints against your child’s academic performance, you shouldn’t bother about the other negative reports, think again. Your child’s aggressive behaviour might indicate some issues festering within. Speak to teachers and seek their opinion on how to curb this behaviour.
Has anger issues? Manage them
If your child is prone to angry outbursts, beware. If he or she has difficulty in controlling his or her anger, your child could end up venting it on peers and friends. In other words, temper issues can fuel his or her bullying tendencies. In this case, do not waste time, seek help from a child psychologist to help your kid learn anger management. Counselling can help you know about the underlying issues that are fuelling his or her anger.
Justifying violence against others
If your child has been aggressive towards another kid, and he or she is justifying this attitude, be alarmed. According to experts, this is a surefire way of knowing that your child is indeed a bully, and that he or she lacks empathy. If this is the case, have a heart to heart talk with your child. Ask your child what is making him or her justify violence. Teach him empathy, make him or her see how such aggression can affect others. Seek a counsellor’s help, if his or her mindset doesn’t change.
Keep tabs on his online behaviour
Track his or her browser history. Try to find out if your child has created any kind of social media profile and if he or she is using it to stalk or bully other children online. Make an effort to impose strict screen time rules in this case